Jumping the Broom

It's wedding season and love is in the air. The smell is spellbinding. It is damn near intoxicating. I used to think a man asks a woman to marry him, gives her a ring, a girl buys a dress, and married they become. Unfortunately, I was completely wrong. A wedding is something of a completely different magnitude! There is the venue, limos, dresses, food, music, and so much more. I realized how much goes into a wedding upon planning my own. I caught the bouquet at my friend's wedding yesterday. I did playfully threaten her that if i didn't get the bouquet, she'd be in trouble, but in actuality, the novelty of a wedding has incompassed my thoughts. I planned my fictious wedding most of today. I figured out everything from venues, catering, music, and honeymoon packages. I have completely relinquished all thoughts of the love, honor, and obey and traded it in for shoes, Vera Wang, and Caribbean honeymoon cruises. Though I jokingly make comments about a lavish THREE weddings, I really only want ONE. I also want to be madly in love and feel breathless whenever my husband is near. I am blessed to still be in the beginning stages of a possible wedding because I am not married or engaged. I have time to really delve into this love thing and plan for a LIFETIME of happiness, not just a few years. The sad part about my realization is that so many women out there are revelling over this thing called a wedding and not realizing the severity of a decision of that magnitude. Even if you divorce and move on, you have a new title, DIVORCEE. So, to avoid titles or removal of titles, one had better marry for love and forever. Divorces are expensive, painful, and disheartening. As I watched gayly while my friend said her vows to her life partner, I shed a tear. I cried for many reasons, but the main reason was because love and matrimony is something I have wanted since I was four years old. I used to tell my mother I wanted 3 weddings and each one of them had me in princess adornment with delicious food and love everywhere. Now, at 24, I want one long-lasting, sacred love that will be with me until the end of my days. A man and a woman separately can be just fine, but in my personal opinion, THEY ARE SPECTACULAR TOGETHER. Besides, what is better than SPECTACULAR? Not much.